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Families with Children Need Routine to Thrive

Routines are how schools, businesses, and many corporations organize themselves to get things done. The same can also be said for a family. Using a routine, a family can expect to more easily get things done, spend time together, and have fun. Routines also help members of the family to know who will be doing what and at what time.

Family life can already be prone to chaos. The daily, weekly, and monthly responsibilities of the parents or children can be extremely overwhelming in today’s fast-paced society. Pair that with unrealistic expectations to be able to do everything (i.e. school clubs, PTA, social obligations, homework, etc.) and you have a recipe for absolute family breakdown. Given a routine, families and their individual lives can be managed effectively and still leave plenty of room for fun time together. When family routines become meaningful, they can provide a sense of strength, a core of values, and a secure sense of belonging to a cooperative family.

Children are first to benefit from a dependable routine. An organized and expected routine helps children feel secure. They know what to expect from their lives and therefore are more apt to deal with the unexpected. The unexpected could be the arrival of a new child in the family, a death, divorce, or illness, or other life stresses. A routine will help keep the child grounded and almost feel like a security blanket when stressful events happen. Their whole lives don’t have to fall apart just because one piece is different or causing anxiety. They can deal with that one thing while comforted by the predictability and reliability of their daily or weekly routine.

Children also benefit from a routine when it is built around family fun. When time together as a family is built into a routine it will strengthen the relationship between family members, especially children to their parents. Studies have proven over and over again that a family routine that includes a scheduled family fun time at least once a week will provide a strong sense of self, a tighter bond between parents and children, and a greater sense of values in those that participate.

Routines also help children develop a sense of how to take care of themselves. They learn to brush their teeth before bed, eat healthy meals, exercise and use their time wisely to accomplish goals. Children that have a daily routine for taking care of themselves have shown to be less likely to get sick and be overly stressed.

For Parents, a set routine can be the key to feeling more organized, in control, and less stressed throughout the day. This is because a routine will help you complete your daily tasks efficiently and once a routine is established, it will allow you to do daily tasks almost automatically.

All this effective time and task management will also make you feel like a better parent. If you are satisfied with your daily work and are not overwhelmed by looming tasks, you are more likely to be receptive to your children’s needs and have the time to spend with your family. This, for any parent, is real satisfaction in life.

Routines can be very diverse but all can be effective. Every family operates differently, so it would make sense to create a routine that works for your families needs. If can be very detailed or an as simple as some guidelines for the week. In any case, the importance of a routine is just that, routine. Make sure whatever is implemented is carried out and followed on a regular basis. This will then become a secure, and effective way of life for the whole family.

Dr. Hoopes is the owner of the Sweetly You Bath and Body Company. Go to http://www.sweetlyyou.com to learn discover our premium Bath and Body products and see our Unique Bath and Body Gift Sets.

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How to Thrive During Recession

When you hear everyone talking about recession, it tends to bring up feelings of negativity andthat generally doesn’t feel very good. So lets see if we can find a way neutralise it.

To start things off lets look at the word “recession”. Economists have their definition, which really doesn’t mean much to most people but in reality, recession is a receding, a contraction or a becoming smaller in some way. It means there is the impression that less exists where before there was more.

If you think about in terms of the sea, the tide constantly moves, when the tide goes out, it gives the impression that the sea has receded. In reality though, the water has simply flowed elsewhere, there’s still an abundance of water that’s always there.

Knowing that a recession then, is simply an “appearance” of something becoming less, we can then focus on what is REAL.

What exactly is REAL?

REAL, comes from the Spanish word meaning Royal (of the King) and if you think of a kingdom, what is “of the king”? Everything, and everyone, abides by the King. In this sense, your true Self is the king and the universe is Self’s kingdom.

So focusing on what’s real, means to focus on all possibilities existing at the same time and that you can choose to see whatever you want (and this requires you to be aware of the thoughts that you are taking as real).

With the awareness that all possibilities exist at the same time, you can choose to see that abundance is the order of the day and it all starts with being open to the possibility that you can have this reality.

So lets look at the practicalities of this, you say that you’re in debts and don’t have the money to pay for them, the appearance is that there’s not enough money to cover all the bills. Is that REAL? You may say, “Yes, it’s a fact that my bank account is bare”, but can you categorically, 100%, know that the money to cover the bills won’t show up? My guess is that you don’t know that absolutely, it’s simply a belief based on what you see in front of you. And a belief is just something you keep telling yourself that you have accepted as true.

So if you don’t know with absolute certainty that the money to cover your bills won’t show up, Where does that take you?

It takes you to “I don’t know”. It’s not very comfortable at first to say that because we all like to think that we have all the answers and we like to think that we know where we’re going, but in truth, very few of us truly know anything. And that’s OK.

Having arrived at “I don’t know”, we are then free/open to the possibility of having a solution present itself. You may begin to have thoughts of exciting new possibilities that inspire you to try new things, take steps that you hadn’t previously considered, but it all start with allowing yourself to be “open to the possibility” of goodness to come to you. After all, all the abundance is still there, it’s just that a majority of people began to focus on the lack, instead of the abundance.

The bottom line is that you have a choice even though on the surface it seems that you don’t. The choice comes with being open to the possibilities that goodness CAN come to you regardless of what anyone else is going through. It all depends on what story you choose to tell yourself, and you do have the choice of telling yourself a story that feels great to you, if you just bring some awareness.

In summary,

1.You have the appearance of something, that doesn’t feel good to you
2.You ask yourself, is this appearance the truth?
3.Do you know that with absolute 100% certainty? (In other words, is it possible that an alternative scenario exists?)
4.Chances are that you don’t know with certainty and an alternative scenario is always possible, so you come back and sit with, “I don’t know”.
5.Out of the “I don’t know” comes the opening for possibilities that goodness can come to you.
6.You begin to enjoy thoughts of exciting new possible futures and feel better about your prospects
7.You take action through inspiration (as opposed to desperation) and life starts to feel good.
8.New opportunities and fortuitous meetings begin to show up and you get back on track.
9.Life’s good, it always is.

Angelo Campione has real life experience of dealing with emotional pain and now walks the path that has him live a life of purpose, joy and freedom. He currently has an online Mindfulness Series free of charge.